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Our New Extended Family

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! This week I have reflected a lot on how much I have to be thankful for, especially as I have seen and heard firsthand how life can be so different for others.

Yesterday in class I talked with the kids from the Southern Wisconsin Figure skating group about Thanksgiving and how thankful I am to be around them and their amazing work ethic, positive attitudes, and because my daughter has shown up with me to many classes, what great role models they are to Iris. We also talked about what they are thankful for. One of the most common Answer’s was “family and friends”. I would agree that is very similar for myself. I am surrounded but so many people I care about, care about myself and family, and have such great outlooks on life.

I am blessed to be around so many people during the week in classes, meetings, and trainings. I know that Amber would agree with me when I say that we have such a close relationship with people we work with that we consider so many as our extended family.  Like our own families there has been a lot of time together; laughing, crying, sharing stories, and celebrating accomplishments together. We have shared breakfast, lunch, dinner, talked over a glass of wine or coffee. We have spent early mornings (some crazy early morning hours like 4am when we should probably be sleeping!), evenings, and weekend hours together. We have spent time together at kids concerts, plays and sporting events. We have seen each other Dressed up, dressed down, and as disgusting as it may sound, we have shared a lot of sweat in our workouts!  Thank you for being a part of our extended family and sharing these wonderful moments with both myself and Amber.

Happy Thanksgiving, we are so thankful for all of you!

Becky

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Things I have yet to learn

It has been a long time since I have blogged. The feeling of not enough time and so many things to blog about has stopped me from even starting in the first place. Sound familiar? Its amazing how time can get away from you so fast. Its hard to believe that Thanksgiving is already next week and after that we only have a few shopping weeks before all the other holiday festivities begins.

Working closely with individuals and their goals gives me a very personal insight to other’s lives. What their hopes are, what kind of relationships they have, what their fears are and what either motivates them or stresses them. I learn a lot about them and a lot about myself.  It also reminds me that I have a lot to learn, to experience,  and to take in.

From my own experiences and others I have seen how important having patience is. Whether its having patience with your children or significant other while you are trying to rush around the house getting ready for the day, pack lunches, eat your own breakfast and plan your day to make sure everyone gets to where they are suppose to. Or patience and understanding with yourself when the scale doesn’t reflect what you think it should say. Patience….things will happen with time. But you can’t stop, you need to keep heading in the direction you want to go.

 

The person who can get you down the most is YOU. Or me…..If you know me at all you know how much being a mother means to me. I tried to multitask way too much yesterday, trying to work from home, clean the house, spend time with Iris, be a friend, do violin lessons and we simply ran out of time to eat. Supper for Iris was a poptart. Not so delicious or nutritious although she thought it was the greatest thing in the world. While I thought I was going to be stripped of my “awesome mom who appears to have it all together” title I am lucky to have some wonderful and supportive people in my life to remind me that not everything goes as you had planned and sometimes you have to go with the flow.  The same goes with your own goals for yourself…not every month will go as you had hoped. You may not see the number you were hoping for or made as many classes as you wanted. But you can’t let YOU and YOUR thoughts stop you from improving. Take the small improvements as victories and start working for the next.

 

Working with some many different people of all backgrounds has given me a new level of understanding. I love learning about other peoples backgrounds, ethnicities, traditions and way of doing things. More so then anything I have learned and really understood that when people are not ready to do something there is no way of convincing them until they are ready and want to do. Having that understanding also helps me with patience. Someone recently asked me if I get frustrated when people want a change but don’t want to do the work for it. My response, “not at all”. When they are ready they will ask for help, and when then do I’ll be there to help them. The mind is a powerful thing, and once it has made a decision it is ready for action. But you have to make that decision for yourself.  It was like trying to convince Iris this weekend that the jeans and pink top that daddy dressed her in was not “boy clothes”. She had it in her mind that it was, it made her upset, and in order to look and feel like a girl she needed leggings and a tutu. Her mind was made up and as soon as she had on what made her feel good it was back to smiley happy Iris.

There is a lot I have yet to learn. I am thankful to be surrounded by so many wonderful people who are always trying to improve, be more, and do more. Be understanding, have patience and be there for others when they are ready for a change. And maybe try to feed your child a better supper then one poptart. ;)

Happy Thanksgiving next week. There is a lot to be thankful for!

 

 

 

 

I have a lot to learn experience